Girls are Supposed to Say No

By: Cock Rock Posted in Dating, Manliness on Wednesday, October 24, 2012

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Rejection is the beginning of the interaction, not the end.

Guys hate being rejected by girls. We’ll go out of our way to avoid it, even if it means not getting laid. It makes perfect sense to be a pussy when you feel uncomfortable. The truth, however, is that rejection is not only okay, it’s good—if a girl doesn’t reject you at all, it’s a sign that something’s wrong. Here are two stories that demonstrate what I mean.

Girl one

I met girl #1 in a bar. I don’t usually meet girls in bars because beer. Maybe that’s why I was a little uncomfortable. As a result, I hit on this girl like I was in TV show written by a bunch of feminists. My wit was no more sexual than an amoeba. She was laughing at my jokes, but she probably laughs at her brother’s jokes, too. The physical contact between us reached its limit when I held her hand for a little bit. As she was leaving, I got her phone number, but she may have been thinking this guy wants to take me to the opening for his skinny jeans exhibit at the homosexual museum.

When we met up for our first date, I didn’t go in for the kiss as soon as I could have. Instead, we talked a lot, eventually developing a genuine connection, which is seen as the Holy Grail if you’re trying to bang a sober chick, but it’s not. It’s the Holy Grail only if you’re trying to bang yourself.

When the date was over, I walked her to the subway station and gave her a hug. Then, like a Ryan Reynolds from a lame rom-com that chicks like but not really, I pointed at my cheek for her to kiss it, and when she moved in to do so, I quickly turned my head and planted one on her lips. I guess she enjoyed it, but it was annoyingly polite.

By now, I’ve known this girl for a few hours, and I have yet to do anything that would cause her to reject me, so she never did. This seems awesome if you’re 17 and think the only way you could possibly get laid is by tricking girls. I wasn’t pushing buttons, and true intimacy doesn’t happen unless you push some buttons.

We went out a few more times, but she stopped seeing me because, as she put it, “I’m sick and tired of players.” “Player” is a word girls use to describe a guy they feel is manipulating them. This girl didn’t feel safe around me—she couldn’t feel like she could trust me. She didn’t feel a real person, just a bunch of lines and well-timed smiles.

Girl two

I met girl two on a weekday afternoon on campus. I was sitting on a bench and she was walking by me in a hurry. I stopped her to ask if she was single, she said yes, smiled, but she continued walking. I waved her back. Much to her reluctance, we talked some more, then she tried to walk away again. It hasn’t been a minute and she’s basically been rejecting me the whole time. Not just by trying to walk away, but by her reticence. I’m eating it up, plus she’s holding back a smile, so I persist.

She then tells me she has to be somewhere. This is probably true, but I don’t let her get away. I ask for her phone number, she says she “doesn’t do stuff like that.” But she’s still smiling. She finally begins to contribute to the conversation: “why are you being weird?” she asks. I take it as a compliment, so I keep pushing. I push hard. There’s friction. She gets annoyed with me, then exasperated. But I smile through it all, unfazed and having the time of my life.

All in all, she probably rejects me 75 times, either by walking away, coming up with excuses, or just giving me a hearty “no.”

But our smiles direct the interaction. Eventually, she joins me on the bench. Then she joins me at the grocery store. By this point, I couldn’t get rid of this girl with Ryan Gosling’s dick. “You know what I like about you,” she says. “You don’t take ‘no’ for an answer.” I hear feminism screech as the arrow of biological truth rips through her shoulder.

Girls are supposed to say no

The first girl could never trust me because I could have potentially been the biggest pussy in the world. I may have only been using techniques and charm to cover up who I really was. It’s an assumption this girl makes, and rightly so. Girls are dumbasses if they give you the benefit of the doubt. Like playing an away game at Notre Dame, you can never leave it up to the refs.

The second girl, however, pushed back because I was pushing her. Sure, I was probably being awkward and weird, but that’s just what was happening on the surface. Because I remained delighted in the face of rejection, she could trust me.

Of course, there’s a limit to ignoring rejections. If a girl is sincerely trying to get away from you, then let her go and don’t be a rape-y dumbass. But usually, guys approach a girl with the mindset: “okay, I’ll go over and say something, and if it doesn’t work I see an alley over there I can hide in.” But, since girls are supposed to say no, it’s better to approach girls with the mindset: “okay, I’m going to go over there and lay it on thick for five minutes. If at that point I feel like it’s not working, then I’ll walk away.”

If you’re having a hard time with girls, it’s not because you get rejected—it’s because you don’t handle the rejection properly. When you understand a rejection for what it is, as a way to build intimacy, then you’ll begin to seek it out instead of avoid it.

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